consent is a hell of a thing aint it
consent is a hell of a thing aint it
Rule one: Always post the rules. Rule two: Answer the questions the person who tagged you asked and write 11 new ones Rule three: Tag 11 people and link them to the post. Rule four: Make sure that they know they’ve been tagged. I was asked by fem-me-fatale
1) What’s the story behind your username?
I’m African and for most Africans the “r” sound at the end of a word just doesn’t exist so I more or less spelled corner out phonetically. Also corners are made when two things meet, be it planes or streets or walls. Feminism to me is where equality and choice/freedom meet, that’s what all feminists want.
2) How old are you?
3) If you had to be stuck on a desert island for a time, which five books would you wish to have with you?
A really thick fashion magazine
A desert island recipe book
Anything from Chimamanda Ngozi
The complete anthology of William Shakespeare’s works
4) What is your ideal date night?
Picnic under the stars (or the lights rather) on the NYC highline on a cool, clear spring night.
5) What do you consider your best physical feature?
My eyes I think, because I just spend so much time looking at them so I know everything about them and they know everything about me, even when I want to hide something, they easily reveal everything there is to know about me.
6) Do you make friends easily?
Not really, in my opinion. Partially it’s because I won’t call someone a friend easily. The position of a friend should only be filled by people you really trust and that you know care about you a lot. Also on the other hand, I can be really awkward and I don’t believe in being socially acceptable. People always say they don’t care what other people think of them and it’s often not true but my problem is that even when I do care and so hard for me to act like anything other than myself. People who are easily embarrassed can’t survive around me for too long.
7) Are you a cat person or a dog person?
Cat person. Cat’s are so laid back and low maintenance and I’m lazy as hell. Being out and about and doing stuff is fun but when it comes down to it, I always appreciate being around someone I can just sit around and do absolutely nothing with. That’s why I’m going to be a cat lady, it’s my destiny.
8) Which is the most important thing to you - academic and professional achievement, finding and being with your ideal romantic partner, travelling the world and experiencing new things or living close to your family and friends?
The most important thing to me is experiences and interaction. I find that the more I meet new people and learn about them, the more I end up learning about myself and what kind of person I am, and the more new and unpredictable experiences I have the more I learn about what I’m capable of, what kind of person I could or should become. I would hope that these thing are a part if not the basis of my career and that they eventually lead to an ideal romantic partner, but I guess I just have to wait and see what’s in store.
9) Who is your favourite character in any TV series, movie, comic book, book, or franchise?
My favorite character is Mulan because she is very impulsive and emotionally motivated like me. I also very often find myself not really knowing who the girl looking back at me in the mirror is. Her journey was that of self discovery and when she finally found out what her purpose in this world was, everything started to make sense and that’s where I’m at in my life now. “My duty is to my heart”, is my mantra when it comes to making important life decisions because I believe no matter what you do or how much you achieve, if you don’t follow your heart it means nothing. Plus she’s such a badass and she never let what people expected of her as a woman to stop her from doing what she needed to do.
And she married Shang and he is so sexy!
10) Is there something that’s popular or trendy right now that you personally just don’t get?
Slut-shaming. I mean it’s not a new thing at all but it just fucking blows my mind in this day and age because how many are people are really that conservative these days? I don’t get it coming from women because it’s a vicious cycle, most women will be slut-shamed at some point in their life for one reason or the other but then most women slut-shame, even more than men. What are you accomplishing? By making it hard for other women to just live their lives you in turn make it harder on yourself, almost as a direct result. Women like that are masochists. I also don’t understand it coming from men either because I find that the men who slut-shame the most are the ones who brag about how many women they’ve slept with. Don’t you think you’d be able to sleep with even more women if you didn’t treat women like they’re worthless pieces of shit for sleeping with you? It’s like asking a bank for a loan and then after they give it to you go around telling everyone how easy it was and how they should go out of business for a approving a loan for you. But then if they had disapproved you would’ve gone around talking about how they’re too uptight, how you’re a “nice guy” with good credit and you “deserve” the loan, and maybe when it comes to loans you do, but women don’t owe you shit. Guys like that are the textbook definition of misogynists.
11) What is the best thing that has ever happened to you?
I don’t think anything will ever happen to me that is better than being born because every other moment in life can only be experienced and remembered relatively. It may be the best moment of your life in the moment but then you look back and it’ll only be great in comparison to how shitty you currently feel or not that great in comparison to how amazing you feel now, but life is the door that opened you up to all those temporary and relative experiences. Having life is as good as life gets.